STUMBLING BLOCKS or OBSTACLES TO YOUR RECOVERY
A number of self-defeating attitudes, actions, and behaviors will prevent you from recovering. These stumbling blocks and obstacles often get set up early in your recovery. These may also resurface if you become complacent, or self-righteous, self-satisfied, or smug in your recovery or start reverting to old patterns.
You may state that you are committed to recovering, but still not take advantage of the opportunity to recover because you still believe that you know what to do to recover; don't need to ask others for advice or help, or that a particular way is too difficult, thus creating more stumbling blocks or obstacles to your recovery. The reality is that you may have just talked about what to do to change and recover, but did not apply yourself.
Inner Attitudes Create Stumbling Blocks or Obstacles to Your Recovery
• People should not expect you to change so many aspects of yourself
• People should not expect you to change so quickly
• There are too many rules and guidelines in treatment or court
• Work requires more time than recovery; you can skip meetings
• You are seeing enough progress when reviewing and get complacent
• You are very different from other participants
• You miss all your old friends and want to hang out with them more
• You really know how to recover on your own; you do not need people telling you what to do
• You regret going into treatment
• You resent some of the other participants
• You want to leave treatment or even return to jail where it is not so hard
• You want to remember the “good times”
• Your life “was not so bad”
Each of these positions can prove detrimental to your recovery. They are very common and predictable. They are often the attitudes and behaviors that pave the way or happen before a relapse, so you need to be mindful of how harmful these stumbling blocks or obstacles are to your recovery.
You may also realize that you are required to be honest, stop embellishing the facts or minimizing your shortcomings. You see that your self-defeating behaviors are not working and you are angry about that; no one understands that you have always been this way and changing old attitudes, actions, and feelings about situations is hard.
You find yourself making excuses for your lack of participation, willingness, and open-mindedness. Doing all that inner work is discouraging; you keep finding character defects and that depresses you. You may think you are going crazy.
Once again, you’ve created stumbling blocks or obstacles to your recovery; your negative attitudes about changing.
When you find yourself in any of these predictable positions, realize that these thoughts, attitudes, and feelings happen to everyone at some point in their recovery. These positions are also counter-productive, create a barrier to learning how to recover or asking for help with your recovery, and can ultimately lead you back to your active addiction without intervention.
How Do You Overcome your Stumbling Blocks and Obstacles in Recovery?
Given that the stumbling blocks and obstacles are within you, then you can intervene. Determine your individual stumbling blocks or obstacles; is it an attitude, an excuse, fear of success or failure. Are you uncertain who to ask about how they overcame their own stumbling blocks or obstacles?
If you are in treatment or attending recovery supportive meetings, there is going to be someone who has overcome their stumbling blocks or obstacles; now you may just have to overcome your fear of rejection, false pride, or or arrogance and ask.